Tuesday, 28 March 2017

House Hunt: Lambs to the slaughter

We've started arranging viewings for houses and have the first one on Saturday. The estate agent has been very sales pitchy and over keen, which has made me feel like a sheep going unto a wolf's den. We've seen a house we're very keen to view but want to keep level headed when when we see it for real, and not give the estate agent any rope to reel us in with.

I've been reading a lot about the house buying process and I've learnt lots of useful things but the whole thing is very odd. All the going back and forth, mysterious fees and greed, greed, greed. It seems to be expected that sellers will grab the highest price for their crumby property, buyers will try to haggle down to a pittance and everyone in between will slip away with whatever cash they can get their hands on. Perhaps the ultimate expression of consumerism at the helm.

According to 'This Is Money' the only thing experienced as more stressful than buying a house is going through a divorce. How have we managed to turn it into such a deeply unpleasant transaction? It's bound to be stressful when money and property are changing hands but I think all the grabbing, hiding of the truth and greed make it worse than it really needs to be.

At this point I don't know how a pair of peaceful, honest sheep are going to navigate a process riddled with white lies and sales spiel but I think we'll need to keep our wits about us and stay in tune with what we want to achieve. It's easy to get drawn in by words like 'dream home' and so on, but we're not in a desperate situation, we don't have to rush this. Sheep we may be but we won't be herded.

Monday, 27 March 2017

Back to life

Over a year ago I put this blog to bed. I wasn't writing often and life in general was getting more demanding; sometimes you have to help yourself by lightening your own load, and blogging was one of the things I was able to put down to take some pressure of myself. It's that thing where you feel snowed up by no one thing in particular, just lots of little things.

Leeds Liverpool Canal

A lot has happened since then. Me and Mr Crafty Blueberry have both got new jobs in a much better organisation than the one we were both working in before. I didn't realise how much harm my old workplace was doing to me until I left. There was bullying, gossip, favouritism and someone running to the toilets in tears every few days. I'd been there so long though that I thought all jobs must be like that! Leaving to work in a more balanced workplace has changed things around for me. I used to get headaches every day, mood swings, sleeplessness, palpitations...not good. My mental and physical health are much more balanced now.

Margaret Bridge, Budapest

We're now at a point where Mr CB has his first permanent job in 8 years, I'm looking into being at least partially self-employed, we've saved a deposit and are looking for a new home. It feels like lots of new challenges and adventures lie ahead and I feel happy and ready to meet them

Snowdonia from Anglesey